It’s been a minute but it’s time for Fi’s happy days! I speak about mental health every now and then on the internet but it’s been a while since I told you want I’m doing to boost my mood!
One thing I’ve learnt from therapy (do you guys want a post about CBT and therapy?) is that logging the happy things helps a lot with mental health as you can look back at all the happy things and use them as evidence that you CAN do it, you can feel better than you do now.
Autumn is always a funny time for me because on the one hand I love it!
I love the crisp autumn leaves, cinnamon-scented everything, the fact that it’s totally socially acceptable to eat your body weight in stew and crisp bright days.
But what about the earlier, darker nights, the gloomy rain, the endless stretch of winter that can bring on feelings of inadequacy, loneliness and dread?
I know lots of people suffer from Seasonal Depression or just feel a bit worst for wear as the winter draws in. I don’t have a cure for SAD (here are some more tips for self care via Mind.org), but I do have a list of things that make me happy in Autumn, and I hope they bring you comfort too:
1. Lighting Candles
Warm, spiced and vanilla scents are my thing. So when Autumn comes around you know I’m making the most out of my chance to burn scented candles. I’m trying to use what I have before I buy buy buy so these ones are from last year but I know they’re back in stores this year if you’d like to get your hands on them. The orange candle below is B&M’s Orange and Cinnamon and the other one I’ve been burning is Vanilla Sugar Cookies from Home Bargains – and trust me they both smell good enough to eat and having serious staying power! And I’m pretty sure they’re around £3.
2. Some great autumnal reads
I reallyyyy close to finishing up PET by Akwaeke Emezi and it’s a really clever concept. It’s Emezi’s first YA novel and I love it, the story follows a girl called Jam who discovers there are monsters still residing in her city. Monsters, are not your usual stuff of nightmares but rather ordinary people; policemen, mothers, fathers, teachers who have committed hideous acts. Jam, along with monster-hunter Pet and her best friend redemption must uncover the monster to protect those closest too them. This is the perfect quick read to snuggle up with on a cold day.
3. Autumn walks (and cosy knits)
Honestly…I’m a homebody. There’s nothing I love more that being at home, with a cat on my knee, reading a book. But getting out with a loved one a cool crisp Autumn day always makes me feel way more clear-headed and ready to take on the world. For the first time my boyfriend Huw and I went Pumpkin Picking to do just that, at Cattow’s Farm! It was a really fun day out and the Pumpkin’s were really reasonably priced – I’m looking forward to going back again next year. I’ve also been loving jumpers in camel and chocolately tones – this jumper dress is from Primark recently.
4. Funny or spooky flicks
I’m a wimp so at halloween I’m all about watching kids films like Casper and Hocus Pocus and I’m NOT ashamed to admit it. Lately we’ve also being watching Derry Girls, Lucifer and Ugly Betty. Did anyone else watch Ugly Betty when it was on telly years ago OH MY GOSH it’s so good to binge watch and it lovely light relief after a long busy day.
5. Comforting and healthy meals
It can be easy to assume that comforting food = chips. And while I love chips as much as the next girl, comforting food doesn’t have to mean unhealthy food!
Today as I write this I’m cooking my first meal in our new slow cooker – and this may make me boring – but I’m so excited to have one again. I’ve got curries, chillies and soups planned to get me through the chilly days. Here’s the Pumpkin, carrot and squash spicy soup we’ve got cooking tonight:
Taking 5, 10, 15 minutes – whatever snippet of time you have to draw does wonders. For me, it’s a chance to finally switch off my laptop and just let my mind be free! Here’s something I drew this month:
Small comforts make all the difference in making me feel calmer, cosier and happier – what makes you happiest this time of year? I’d love to know!